Whoever said real estate is easy, lied. Time and time again I am reminded that buying and/or selling a home is stressful and emotional. A move is typically before or after another big life event, such as, a marriage, a new baby, downsizing, divorce or death. Then add on a home sale and/or purchase and life just gets chaotic.
There are plenty of articles on how stressful buying and selling a home is. This article piqued my interest though because it put selling a home as more stressful than a divorce. Wowzers! I touched upon how stressful buying and selling a home can be here, while I was going through it myself. As I have (somewhat) gotten through the stress, I wanted to chat further about what emotions may come up during the process of buying and selling a home.
- Anxiety. Buying and/or selling a home is a big change and commitment and anxiety is bound to occur through this process for everyone in the home.
- Overwhelmed. There are a lot of moving pieces in this process – due diligence on the home you are buying, showing the home you are selling, negotiating different parts of the contract and then there is the move, itself.
- Helplessness or Despair. As some the details are out of your control, you may feel helplessness or despair.
- Anger. Tempers may get shorter as you feel the loss of control and the loss of the place you’ve called home.
- Sadness, Mourning or Grief. Every home is going to have a special place in your heart. It could have been the home that you brought your babies to after they were born, your first home as a married couple, the first home you purchased by yourself, the home where your parents lived, you may have feelings of loss, grief and sadness that come up during this process.
Real estate transactions can be a very stressful process and it is inevitable you will feel a wide array of emotions. Here is a list of activities that can help counter stress:
- Deep breathing. Deep breathing allows more oxygen to get in your cells and can reduce the feelings of stress. For you over achievers, try meditating. Just ten minutes a day does wonders.
- Exercise. Find time to exercise. If you aren’t in the habit of daily exercise, plan a 15-minute walk three times a week or find a yoga class to practice that deep breathing mentioned above.
- Self-care/grooming. Don’t tell yourself you don’t have time to stop in order to get that manicure, pedicure, massage or haircut. Treating yourself to an hour of self-care will do wonders for your mental, physical and emotional well-being. (This is true all the time!)
- Noting accomplishments. Make a list of the accomplishments throughout the process. Staying focused on the positive, even though there may be setbacks, will help your mental and emotional attitude.
- Humor. Laughing has been researched as a way to reduce blood pressure and stress. Humor will make your experience that much more fun and palatable.
- Eat right! Less sugar, more protein and veggies will give you the brain power and stamina you are going to need to manage any unanticipated stresses.
- Reach out to Liz. As your partner, she is here to help. She will work with you to remain positive and create a smooth experience.
Real estate transactions may be stressful but in the end it is certainly worth it. Change is always unnerving and a stressful process but your new home will quickly start to feel like home.